Understanding Disagreement and Conflict

Conflict is a clash of unpleasant words between two individuals. We will have disagreement with friends, family, and colleagues even if we do not want too; because each individual have a different personality and different value or belief.  Las time I had a disagreement with someone was one year ago at my work place and it was because my belief was different from that of my colleague. I believe as professionals working in the education field we should conduct themselves as respectful educator therefore I confronted her about the behavior in the work place and her dress code. According to O’Hair & Wiemann (2012) conflict is not simply an argument; it is a negative interaction between two or more people. Therefore I believe that when I confronted my coworker I may have approached her in a negative manner because she was very frustrated with me. Based on what I learned about conflict management our disagreement could turn out to be more positive, as opposed to negative which caused us avoid each other until I left the Job. The strategies I learned that can help me manage or resolve conflict is productive conflict. This strategy can help me foster a healthy debate, a better decision making, and foster relationship growth. Another strategy that can help me manage or resolve conflict is the 3R’s. This strategy can help me be more compassionate and have empathy during conversation. I learned that if we are aware of our action as well as the way we interact with other individuals we will be able to participate in last conflict during conversation. The insight that I get is that nonviolent communication sometimes referred to as a compassionate communication is that it can create, support, and empower communication by giving and receiving from both person. If I have to ask my coworker input of the disagreement we had she may not respond because her personality is on a negative side. Therefore I will put some of nonviolent communication skill in place to better communicate with other as well as avoid having conflict during interaction. Another insight that I get is that we are responsible for our own action and that was one of the nonviolent communication skills that emphasize personal responsibility for our action and the choices we make when responding to others (The Center for Nonviolent Communication, n.d.). Overall I have learned a lot over the past few weeks on how to become a better communicator throughout my career and my personal life.

Reference:

O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.

The Center for Nonviolent Communication. (n.d.). The center for nonviolent communication. Foundations of NVC, NVC Model, and NVC Concepts. Retrieved from http://www.cnvc.org/

 

 

The Type of communicator Am I

For the past few weeks I have learned a lot about communication and how to effectively communicate with others. We discussed schemas in communication as a cognitive formwork that help organize the information we send out to others. In fact young children can develop schemas and identify to different items as the same. For example cow and goat can be part of their schemas concept of see one animal and after see another animal with similar look can have the same name for a child. My evaluation as a communicator is based on how I build relationship through communication as an educator. For example the similarity between how others evaluate my communication style is that I am a great listener and I like to process my information before I respond. I believe when we understand the information we received we are able to reply with an effective response.

The activity for the discussion made me realize that schemas is one type of prejudice. I was able to identify her from her career, her salary, the kind of vehicle she drive, and so forth without knowing her personally.  Therefore it make me realize that I am no different from someone that is judgmental or prejudice. Another insight I get this week is that my communication anxiety is moderation which is call situational. I never thought my communication style would be situational for someone that is concern about the communication I am received. The next insight I get this week is that my listening style is people-oriented. In fact this listening style help me build relationship with others. I have the ability to interfere with proper judgment during a conversation. When we able to effectively communicate with other and understand the information received is a great life skill a person can have throughout their career. As a professional in the early childhood field I would have to learn how to become a better speaker and listener. Each of the insight I gained this week can influence my career and my personal life when interacting with others. Overall I have learnt a lot about the way I communicate with

Communicate Across the Nation

This week blog assignment takes me back to my childhood. My grandmother was the head of the family and she kept everyone together, guide us in the right path, and provide for us. I can say the way I communicate with other individuals is because of what she thought me when I was a young girl. Children in Haiti are not allowed to call an adult by their first name even if you do not know that person. We have to refer to them by their last that if it someone you do not know, otherwise everyone is aunt, uncle, grandma, and grandpa. My grandmother was very big on fostering positivity and respect because she always says that “everyone is someone’s child and they deserve the same amount of respect as any of us”. My career allows me to communicate with many type of people therefore I have to demonstrate an excellent communication skill to everyone and treat them with respect.

The insight I get is that a good communicator is aware of their strength, their weakness, and the way they listen to other individuals. As an early childhood educator my goal is to communicate effectively with the students, families, colleagues, and the communities effectively so that I can provide quality services throughout my career as an educator. The first strategy I could use to help me communicate better is effective listening skills. This will allow the speaker feel that he or she is being heard and understood. I believed that knowing how to focus during a conversation is very important because we also show respect to the speaker and we can received the information accordingly. The second strategy I could use is to know how to manage stress during a conversation because I believe stress during conversation is a factor. I would like to be able to identify what cause the stress so that I can take a moment to collet myself before continue with the conversation. I learn that if we take a moment to calm down when we are stressed about something and take a deep breath and look at the whole saturation, we can effectively receive the information during the conversation. The third strategy I could use is how to manage my emotions during a conversation. In many cases we are not emotional aware when communicating with others. It is very important to understand and empathize so that both parties can benefit from the conversation. Overall it was great to identify ways that can help me communicate effectively with other individuals with a variety of backgrounds.

Non Verbal and Verbal Communication TV- Show Activity

I feel like this week’s assignment was a little bit challenging because I had to watch unfamiliar television without sound. I am always up for a challenge so I chose to watch “The Carrie Diaries – TV show”. The show is about a young girls who lose her mother through cancer and live with her father and her younger sister. Her dream is to become a writer in New York City where big things happen. Thanks to Netflix I was able to watch five episodes without sound which was hard and my assumptions about what they are saying was wrong as well. I thought the three main characters were one big dysfunctional family. However they turned out to be one big cohesive, loving family. The non-verbal communications I obverse were their body language, facial expression, and a lot of hands movements. The insight I get from watching Carrie Dearie is that teenagers communicate with each other by doing a lot of yelling, their tone change throughout the conversation, such as high tone to low tone. They also expresses their feeling through non-verbal communication by walking away when they do not agree with the other person or locking themself in their room when their feeling are hurt through an event that happen.

            Now after watching the show with sound it was a different experience where I can make more sense of the characters. My assumption about the plot is that Carrie is fighting with her younger sister Dories being late for school. I was wrong; they were fighting about their dead mother’s hand-bag that Carrie wanted to take to school with her. What I like about this show is that the girl’s father show excellent effective communication skills. He listens and understands each girl independently and come up with a solution that solves the issue by letting Carrie pick another item from their mother’s things.  If I knew the show and I use to watch it before I will be able to predict what is going on between the girls and their father or my assumption could be correct. Overall my experience was great but I was hoping to have an “aha” moment because I love watching teen show but it was just a story about a girl who want to enter adul

Someone Who Demonstrates Competent Communication

Communication is about sending and receiving message information among social media, colleagues, family’s members, and so forth. It is very important when exhibiting effective communication because both you and the communicator can benefit from the information that is shared among us. When I think about a person when demonstrates competent communication particular context is Yverose Romulus. She was my Academic advisor and we became friends. She exhibited great listening skills where she always gave me her full attention during our weekly chat. She always has great feedback that helps academically, in my career success, as well as personally. Her thought are very clear and straight to the point. Another thing I love about Yverose is that she doesn't personalize the communication we have as if it was all about her as well. It is always a pleasure to talk to her about career path as well as personal matters. Yverose passion for working with individuals shows a great deal of putting other people fist. For this reason I will want to model some of her communication behavior. Being an effective communicator is about achieving goals influence someone life, and appropriate approach behavior. Therefore my goal is to be an effective communicator throughout my career as an advocate in the early childhood field.